Do you realize there’s a difference between loving yourself and knowing your worth? Tina Knowles and Niecy Nash tell how learning and accepting their worth led to love the second time around.   Think about it. So many women, including myself, are generally conditioned to believe that we need to attract men, and once we find a man who loves us, then we should be happy. Jaleesa Lashay Diaz, Journalist Growing up, I remember being raised on how to “behave” in order to demonstrate self-respect and  carry myself with dignity. It’s not to say that dignity is a bad thing, but somehow those images of what a lady should be seemed closely aligned with the ideals of what “attracts” a man. So along with this lesson of how to “behave”, I also internalized that you need to find a man that loves you, and if you’re that lucky, cherish that man, and do whatever you can to keep him, because there’s a chance that you’ll never find that love again.