Why I Said I Do: From Sneaky Links to Blended Interfaith Family – Jasmine & Salah

Jasmine & Salah On Wednesdays, Black Love features couple’s first-person stories of why they said "I do." While we know that marriage is not just about the wedding day but the life you share together, we want to know why you decided to walk down the aisle and take that step toward forever. Want your story to be heard next? Email our editor at yasmine@blacklove.com. Meet Salahuddin & Jasmine Raheem!  Fun Facts About The Couple:  They met on Myspace and reconnected years later. They are a blended family of 5 children, and interfaith!  Years Married: 2 Salahuddin’s Story: Why I chose my wife Jasmine Raheem. Jasmine has been around for years off and on.  We always had our own situations with other people, but we always managed to link back up some way. I can admit I wasn’t the man I am today back then so I would not have been good for her. When we reacquainted back in 2017 through some eyes in a DM, it was different that time. We both were ready for something serious but I don’t think Jaz thought it was going to be anything other than what we were used to. The more we hung out the more I fell for her. I then realized how much we had in common as far as morals, family values, and how much we need someone good in our lives. Judging from our past relationships, this was heaven-sent.  I couldn’t get enough of Jaz, I needed her presence around. Her smile made everything bad go away in my life.  She knew what to say and do whenever I needed. This was something I have never seen before from arguing all the time in the past to understanding and these four words that meant the world to me “How was your day?” Most will take that lightly but I needed that in my life.   As the days and weeks went on, I knew she was the one. I remember the first day I told Jaz “I love you." We were at the gym and it came as a shock to her but she had my heart. And that’s when I began to plan our future together. Only months into our relationship I went to pick out an engagement ring. Secretly putting our engagement together it was one of the most nerve-racking experiences of my life. I wanted everything to be perfect because that’s what she was.  Asking Jasmine to marry me around friends and family was so unexpected for Jaz but perfectly executed. Getting on one knee in front of our loved ones and seeing Jaz smile from ear to ear was everything I wanted for her.  That was the beginning of our happily ever after. With Mrs. Raheem, I grew as a man, father, and husband so much. Without her by my side, my growth would have been incomplete. From the day we reconnected until now I am forever appreciative of Jaz. From her nurturing spirit towards me and our children to how passionate her love is for me. From how selfless she is on an everyday basis to her relieving me of all stressors. I love everything about her inside and out. We are the definition of growth and Black Love.  Related Articles: Here’s What It’s Like Being in an Interfaith Marriage How My Husband and I Married and Learned to Trust After Losing Contact for Years Our Story: Roderick & Cherise "We talk all the time about how we are soulmates and how timing is everything." Jasmine’s Story: Salah and I have known each other since I was about 16 years old. We were Myspace friends and he actually lived around the corner from me. A few years later, we eventually became each other’s sneaky links lol. He actually climbed through my window a few times. Other times he would come pick me up, I would spend the day/night with him and he would drop me off back home (down the street of course, so my Mama wouldn’t see who he was). Even though at the time, I was sure that I was just another girl to him, there was something about him that always made me look at him differently. The way he cuddled me, our conversations, it felt like we had a connection. Even though I felt strongly about him, I played it cool and never pressed anything more.   Eventually, we entered into relationships with other people. Salah had two sons, and I had a daughter and a son. I had been in a physically abusive relationship and also had been with someone who was emotionally unavailable. He too had been in a toxic relationship. But we both tried making things work for the sake of our children. I remember back in 2016, Salah sent me a direct message on Instagram asking to catch up and go on a lunch date. I declined because I was in a relationship. He asked me if we were talking about marriage and I adamantly replied “yes.” Needless to say, neither one of our relationships worked. I believe it was because we were always meant to be with each other. In December of 2017, He posted this video of himself at the gym. I immediately sent him the eyes emoji and conversation sparked. We got all four of our children together to see how they would interact. Everything was perfect. Salah is the most affectionate, romantic, touchy-feely man I have ever been with. All of these years of dating, I felt like I had to settle. No man could ever meet my needs but Salah. Not only that, but he is excellent with our kids. Six months after reconnecting, on June 13, 2018, Salah proposed to me. All of our family and friends were there. Without hesitation, I said yes. There is no one else I would rather spend my life with. We got married on May 15, 2019. I gave birth to our 5th and final child on December 5, 2019. We talk all the time about how we are soulmates and how timing is everything. If we had pursued a relationship when we first met, we would not have had our four beautiful children and we probably would have been no good for each other at that time. We are literally best friends. We finish each other’s sentences, we love each other’s company and can sit and talk to each other for hours. Salah says all the time that I am his peace and I keep him sane. Especially after a day of hard work. He protects and provides. We are the perfect team.  More #WhyISaidIDo stories: Our Story: Clyde & Jasmin Our Story: Larry & Marita Our Story: Andrew & Shaquana Our Story: Matthew & Marnel Our Story: Damon & Jennifer Find the full #WhyISaidIDo collection here.

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Why I Said I Do: Middle School BFFs Turned Lovers – Donielle & Zaesha

Donielle & Zaesha My husband and I have been married for five years. We met in 2010-2011 in the 8th grade on the first day of gym class, and it was genuinely love at first sight. I never thought in a million years that a pretty boy like him would be interested in a shy, unpopular, and dark-skinned woman like me. A mutual friend of ours introduced us to each other and we quickly became acquainted. He was different than any other guy I had ever liked. He didn’t make me nervous, and the butterflies I felt in my stomach were from excitement instead of fear. He had the prettiest smile and the most inviting eyes. To my surprise, he was actually interested in me. We dated for a week or so, but I broke it off because I felt like I couldn’t compete with the girls who were interested in him (I was so naïve and insecure). Eventually, I entered into a relationship with another guy for five years, but Donielle and I were the best of friends. We both knew that we were supposed to be together, and even at 14 years old, he would always say 'I’m going to marry you one day.' I never believed him. Related Articles: #WhyISaidIDo - From Sneaky Links to Blended Interfaith Family: Salah & Jasmine 3 Ways Your Partnership Can Thrive Through Intense Hardship Our Story: Roderick & Cherise Courtesy of Donielle & Zaesha He was my light in a dark time. I experienced a lot of depression and brokenness in that four-year relationship, and he was there to lift me up every time. I was in love with him, but I was afraid to leave my relationship out of fear of not being loved — all the while not realizing that the love I received was not love at all. Donielle cut ties with me after I graduated high school because he could no longer watch me love another man who didn’t deserve it. He pursued me every chance he got, but I always turned it down despite my heart wanting him. A year later in 2015, we rekindled our friendship and I saw that as a sign from God to not let him go again. I told him that I wanted him and nobody else, and the rest was history. We got engaged and married at the courthouse four days later in July of 2016. We were just 20 years old. We now have two boys together and our marriage has gotten so much stronger. We have weathered storms that were meant to break us, but we came out victorious every time. Reflections by Zaesha

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All Couples to the Front — We Want Your “Transparent Tuesday” Stories!

Courtesy of @photosbyreem/Instagram Can we be honest? Relationships take work. It requires compromise and sacrifice and we know firsthand experiences help people understand that more than anything. Transparent Tuesdays is a day to relay some personal hurdles that we’ve had to overcome in our relationships. To embrace your emotions and share something you've learned about yourself since committing to your partner and/or marriage.  Are you ready to get transparent about your relationship? If so email our Editor Yasmine Jameelah at yasmine@blacklove.com.  Related Articles: #WhyISaidIDo – From Sneaky Links to Blended Interfaith Family: Salah & Jasmine Our Story: Clyde & Jasmin Our Story: Matthew & Marnel

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Our Story: Roderick & Cherise

Credit: Cherise Miller The year was 1995. The place was Tougaloo College. We met on a “he wants to meet you but hasn’t said anything” type of vibe. Just a few weeks after learning his interest in me, I approached Rod when I noticed him sitting outside of the library. He will tell you I was quite bold in my approach. On the other hand, I remain true to the situation being a very humble introduction of myself. What we can both agree on is right there in that moment we instantly clicked.   Before our meeting, he spotted me walking from the financial aid office wearing a sundress, an anklet and exuding “The Last Dragon” glow. He said that moment solidified it all as he thought to himself, I was going to be his wife. I was clueless to his proclamation, but yet I was quietly enjoying the late-night conversations about religion, politics, family, and poetry. A few months passed, and we became a safe place to land for each other. However, since I was committed to someone back home, he respected the boundaries of our relationship to fully express his heart's deepest desire. EXCEPT for this one time…  One night cemented our deep love for each other without us even knowing. I allowed Rod to sneak upstairs into my all girl’s dorm room, and we stayed up all-night talking for hours. We shared poetry, and he sang Luther Vandross songs while massaging my soul. I felt safe in my vulnerability with him, and he also felt safe with me. What a night!  It's important to mention that Rod and I never shared any physical intimacy while in college. Not even that night of soul massaging. Time passed, and trauma erupted in Detroit, which prompted me to transfer to Eastern Michigan University to be closer to my family. A few years after our initial meeting and my departure from Tougaloo, I received a letter that would later change the scope of what I envisioned for my husband.   Rod poured his heart out to me, and I didn't respond until nearly three years later. Six years after his secret proclamation and two and a half years after I became a mom to Isaiah. After many years apart, I missed my old friend. But once we reconnected via letters and a few phone calls, he flew to Detroit to visit me and meet my son Isaiah.  When Rod exited the plane, he smelt like Frankincense and myrrh essential oils. My heart skipped a beat toward my forever friend and soon to be the love of my life. It was clear at that moment this was the "He" I'd written about in my poetry. The one I prayed for and who proclaimed his undying love for me in that letter I received in 1997. This was the "He" who promised himself that if ever given another chance, he wouldn't let me get away. With time finally, on our side, we were indeed ready for love!  Growing up, neither of us had blaring examples of what love and a successful marriage were, so we weren't necessarily shopping for a spouse in college. Early on, we experienced challenges resulting from Isaiah, and I moving to Richmond from Detroit. During this time, I felt I couldn’t be myself in communicating differences of opinion without being accused of being cold or dismissive. But I have come to understand the complexities of stress brought about by Rod giving up the freedoms of being a poetic single free bird and becoming a married father and leader of his family.  Because of the obstacles we previously faced, we now understand what doing the work means to sustain a healthy marriage. We understand to have a happy, functional family with a close connection for generations to come; we must do the ‘work.’ We know that our marriage takes a conscious commitment to avoid getting caught up in the day to day requirements of adulting with children. But each day, we're continuing to learn that we must consistently invest in our relationship to remain connected as a solid unit and foster a lasting love. Reflections by @cutslikeagirl

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