How I Knew Cupid Shot Me
staging-blacklove.kinsta.cloud celebrates Valentine's Day with our community with this question: How did you know Cupid’s arrow shot you? Here’s what you said.
Best Valentine’s Day Memories From the Black Love Community
At Black Love, we celebrate love daily. But since tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, our community shared their best memories of the holiday made for lovers.
Our Story: Angel & Jason
We are Jason and Angel Scott. We met on a blind date almost 24 years ago. My best friend from high school said she had someone for me to meet and gave me his number. It took me two months to call him. One day I was at home bored and decided to page him, he was out with another friend and said he had been waiting for me to call him. So he took the friend home and called me when he got in. We talked on the phone for two weeks before we met. When we met, it was love at first sight. We have been together since. I had a little girl at the time and he knew if he wanted to talk to me it was a package deal. I had been through hurt in a previous relationship with my daughter's father and was very hesitant about giving my heart to someone again. Jason broke me down and after four months of dating, he asked me to marry him. I said no the first time. He asked again, four months later and I finally said yes. I was looking for consistency, which he was providing, but again I didn't want to be hurt again. He was a very nice guy from the beginning, it was just me being very cautious. We got married two years later and have been together since we first met. I am so thankful I gave love a second try. I love the relationship that with God we have developed. Now it hasn't been without bumps in the road, we had a married lady trying to talk to my husband when he was trying to invite her and her troubled relationship to our marriage fellowship at our previous church. This was the most hurtful time in our relationship. If it wasn't for God and our church that we used to attend, I am not sure we would still be here. We want to share that if your marriage is going to make it past a serious conflict, you must have forgiveness in your heart, commitment, loving communication and redefine your household guidelines relating to your marriage. You must put guidelines in place to affair-proof your marriage. One thing I learned is- hurt people, like to hurt people. With God at the center of our relationship, it caused me to not be selfish and see the root cause of this problem which was my husband thought he was strong enough to stand on his own and he could help save the world. Now when we speak with couples who have challenges we do it as a team through our business we started in 2016 Focused Marriage, Inc. (www.focusedmarriages.com) We love to Coach marriages to Victory, this is our passion and we served our previous church and our current church for over 15 years combined assisting couples. We love to let couples know that marriage can work when you work have guidelines in place. It's work, but fun.
Our Story: Amanda & Quincy
We have gone to great lengths to make an adventure out of our marriage. Amanda and I have had an interesting journey to the altar. We met during my last year in law school. We were friends and dated for 6 months before I asked her to be my girlfriend. Then I graduated from law school and found a great job that paid well. It was the most money that anyone in my family had ever made. I'll be honest; I was feeling myself. But Amanda wasn't feeling it at all; I had gotten to big for my britches. So we decided to end our relationship after a year while both remaining in DC. Although we lived a couple of blocks apart, and rode the same metro lines, we managed to not see each other for an entire year. A lot had changed during that year. Amid the financial credit crises, I had been furloughed from my "high paying" job, and my parents were going through a nasty divorce. That year of furlough was a year of reflection for me. It was an opportunity for me to be introspective about each aspect of my life. So that when Amanda reached out to me after a year of not speaking or seeing each other, I answered the phone with more humility. After that phone call in December, Amanda and I pressed the reset button. We started out as friends and then became more than friends again. A short 4 years later, we married on August 9, 2014. In my vows, I promised to create adventure from boredom and dream up schemes that will either make our lives better or give us a great story to tell. 3 and half years into our marriage, Amanda and I have found great adventure in the many journeys we have taken together. From moving across the country to supporting each other during bar prep to overcoming unemployment and getting cast for commercials on TV (we did that!), we have gone to great lengths to make an adventure out of our marriage. Reflections by @everyone_calls_me_q
Our Story: Faune & Derek
Faune: I said I do because Derek had all of the characteristics I wanted in a life partner and when I prayed for myself I found myself praying for him as well. He was always there for every pivotal transitional moment in my life since I was 16 years old. I felt God's joy when I was around him, I could never stay mad at him. I knew I loved him and he made it clear that he loved me. I wanted children that would have him as their father. I really loved his family and being around them. He wanted to grow as a man and we kept growing together. We got better as individuals together. We shared the same vision for life, passion, goals, interests, and faith in God. Life felt more full when I was with him. Derek: When I imagined my life I couldn't imagine it without her. The key to 'I do' is to have the revelation that it's not just at the altar. 'I do' is a decision everyday of your life. Many believe Love is a feeling. And it is...but that alone won't be the foundation for a successful relationship. Love is a decision. And to decide is to kill off all other options. When you say I do what you're really saying is you trust what God has purposed in your life. Faune always pushed me to be great, she has always been my favorite person to create with, she's the funniest person I know, I love her and her family, she is my rib that protects vital organs, and I knew she would be the best mother to our children. I prayed that God would bring us together and allow me the privilege of being her husband.
Our Story: Crista & Algenon
Marriage is a commitment contract that must continuously be renewed and reaffirmed. You must continue to support the foundation on which you started and build from there. Algenon and I had our first child in 2004 and we got married in 2005, when he was 23 and I was 19. We were naive about everything BUT we made the choice and took a leap of faith. No matter the trials and tribulations we have experienced, there is a force of nature that continues to pull us together and strengthens our unbreakable bond. We grew up together and had to navigate the real world in our most formative years. As hard as it was, there is no one I would rather walk this journey with. We have accepted each other as we have changed along the way and it’s the love and support we have for each other that allows us to continue to grow! Even bad days are better with your friend and lover. I said I do in the beginning because I was a young girl in love! But I continue to make that commitment because what we have built is truly a blessing. My love for my husband is immeasurable and every day I am grateful for our journey together. Reflections by Crista
