What the Return of ‘Black Love’ Taught Me About The Power in Knowing My Worth

Do you realize there’s a difference between loving yourself and knowing your worth? Tina Knowles and Niecy Nash tell how learning and accepting their worth led to love the second time around.   Think about it. So many women, including myself, are generally conditioned to believe that we need to attract men, and once we find a man who loves us, then we should be happy. Jaleesa Lashay Diaz, Journalist Growing up, I remember being raised on how to “behave” in order to demonstrate self-respect and  carry myself with dignity. It’s not to say that dignity is a bad thing, but somehow those images of what a lady should be seemed closely aligned with the ideals of what “attracts” a man. So along with this lesson of how to “behave”, I also internalized that you need to find a man that loves you, and if you’re that lucky, cherish that man, and do whatever you can to keep him, because there’s a chance that you’ll never find that love again.

After the Show: The Truth About Our Marriage

There’s a saying, ‘perception is reality’… but that’s not always the case. Being part of Black Love Doc season one was a great experience! It was a pleasure sharing our story with the world. Since the show aired, we met and heard from many viewers who said they related to us and our differences and said they saw themselves (or other couples they love) in us. Many people genuinely had tons of positive things to say – and yes, I’ll be happy to share my hair stylist's contact info, LOL. However, there were many viewers that were not as enamored with our candor and transparency. After the show aired and we made additional cameos on the @BlackLoveDoc Instagram and Facebook pages.

Letter From The Editor: Codie Elaine Oliver

Welcome to staging-blacklove.kinsta.cloud! Two years ago, my husband, Tommy, and I created the Black Love television series which airs on the Oprah Winfrey Network. It has meant the world to me to be able to travel with my husband to city after city talking to married couples about their relationships and their journeys through love. What happens when we do not see ourselves positively represented in entertainment and in the media is that we believe what we are told about who we are. It was so important to me to impact that narrative, that we created the series with our own money and edited the first season at our dining room table –– before OWN picked it up. We will forever be indebted to the couples who told us their stories without knowing what the end result would be. And even through that beautiful journey, we always knew that the show was just one small glimpse into our love stories. With that truth in our heart, my husband and I, along with our incredible team, have now created staging-blacklove.kinsta.cloud, a new space to gather and share even more of our stories.   Black Love features married couples talking about what it takes to make a marriage work, but it doesn’t take long to realize that “success” in relationships requires a lot of us. It requires maturity. It requires perspective. It requires patience, forgiveness, compromise, humility, and self-love. If we’re lucky we develop those traits long before we meet “the one” –– but it’s never too late to be the happiest, healthiest version of yourself. Photographer: Christian Adkins II With this in mind, we hope we’ve created staging-blacklove.kinsta.cloud as a place where each of us can explore who we are even more deeply. Our backgrounds, our challenges, our pain, and our lessons connect us, but we are nothing if we do not learn from them. Tommy and I set out to build a place that is “360 degrees of Black love” –– as he puts it. We’ve gathered voices who inspire us and those we admire to share their journeys. Our aim is that these voices empower each of us to be the best version of ourselves and equip us with the tools and information mainstream media doesn’t tell us. Want an example? Start with the myth of the Black Marriage Crisis. You, our Black Love community, have been so generous with your feedback. You talk about Black Love, the series, on your social media, and when we’ve been on the road with Black Love, you have shown up in droves to tell us what it means to you. Please, don’t stop there. Check out staging-blacklove.kinsta.cloud, tell us what you love, what you hate (we can take it), and what you’d like to see. You can even become a contributor by submitting your own story. Together we can provide a healthy foundation for our relationships and our families. With so much love, Codie Elaine Oliver @codieco

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