About Veronika Obeng

Born and raised in Oklahoma, and a working mother of five, Veronica Obeng is a woman of many facets. From blogging (VeronikaObeng.com) about the highs and lows of motherhood, to hosting The Sac, the ultimate "girl talk" podcast.

Me Mode vs. Mom Mode

By weekday, she takes care of the kids, cleans the house, and is the consummate “PTA Mom”.  But come Friday nights, the Louboutins and lipstick come out to play – and it’s none of your business whether they play nice. Ya know, being a single mom has its ups and has its downs. The all-encompassing effort is so difficult that I don't know if I'll ever find the words to describe it, but all my single moms know what I'm talking about. My kids give me so much joy; my whole life is wrapped around them. But I've found in the last 18 months that there are two very distinct Veronikas. There's the "Mom Mode" and there's the "Me Mode." And you have to protect both, you have to protect both. When I'm in "Mom Mode" somehow, no matter how exhausted I am, or how difficult my day has been, I manage to get out of bed every morning at 5:30 am. I pull my hair into a ponytail, get all five of my children dressed and ready, and am out the door no later than 6:45 am. I drive in Los Angeles traffic for over three hours a day to get kids to school, to practice, and to events. I usually have dinner cooked by noon, because if I don't, it won't be ready in time. I get all the little babies – ages two, three, and four – in the bath no later than 7:00 pm and into bed by 8:30 pm. It's not extraordinary what I do – it's necessary. It's my job. Nobody gets brownie points for going to work and doing their job. So, I do my job proudly. I do it with every fiber of my being and it is the great joy of my life to be a mother.

By |2021-11-09T09:18:51-08:00August 31, 2018|Self-Love, Single Life|0 Comments

Going From an Abused Child to a Strong Mother

I was parenting out of fear, but I didn’t know why. Then, I learned about my ACEs. I ran across the term ACE the other day while reading. “Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE)” is a term I wasn't all too familiar with. At first, I laughed and thought my entire childhood was an adverse childhood experience. As an 80's baby, I definitely feel I was among the last generation to get the hell beat out of me for any offense, and no one raised an eyebrow. Then, I kept reading.  And reading. And I had this incredible moment of recognition that laughter was a way to cope with my own ACEs, and that my parenting has been shaped indelibly by my adverse experiences as a child. It feels vulnerable and too honest to admit that I was abused as a child, and it has impacted my journey as a mother.

By |2019-04-20T11:55:52-07:00August 30, 2018|Parenting|0 Comments
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