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When you’re seeking greater physical, emotional, and romantic connection to another person, it can be frustrating to hear advice that suggests you work on you first. Yet the reality is whether you’re single or in a committed relationship, knowledge of your needs is a prerequisite to having them met. And few of us take the time to truly learn ourselves, let alone how to express our desires, before jumping into partnership with other people and expecting them to be able to satisfy us. This not only leads to breakdowns in communication but can signal the demise of an entire relationship.
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The good news is you don’t have to be a “sexpert” or psychologist to learn how to give and receive better love and pleasure, but you should be an expert on your own mind and body — and that of your partners if you’re currently involved. These books can help get you there, whether you’re looking to be coupled or craving deeper intimacy within your current union. From texts that serve as reminders of all that is beautiful about Black love to guides on sexual alignment and finding the one, there’s something for everyone and their unique quest.
“Into-Me-See: Mastering Black Intimacy for the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted”
By Dr. M. Jeannelle Perkins-Muhammad
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Licensed therapist Dr. M. Jeannelle Perkins-Muhammad delves into the cultural issues that have become roadblocks to healthy romantic partnership for many Black couples while helping readers work through the four levels of intimacy necessary to establish deep connections.
“INTIMACY FROM HIS VIEW: What Black Men Have to Say About Intimacy”
By Jeremy Johnson
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Through research, interviews, and personal commentary, life coach Jeremy Johnson offers a look at intimacy from the Black male perspective and the innate desire we all have for deeper connection with one another.
“Sensual Faith: The Art of Coming Home to Your Body”
By Lyvonne Briggs
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Body- and sex-positive preacher Lyvonne Briggs uses affirmations, journal prompts, and rituals to teach readers how to align their bodies with pleasure and sexuality through wellness practices that center west African spirituality.
“The Game of Desire: 5 Surprising Secrets to Dating with Dominance–and Getting What You Want”
By Shan Boodram
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In this how-to guide, sexologist and intimacy coach Shan Boodram teaches women how to become master daters in just 60 days. Spoiler: The first step before you hit the streets is self-discovery.
“Learning To Love: And The Power of Sacred Sexual Spiritual Partnerships”
By Victoria L. White
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Writer Victoria L. White guides readers on a vibrational journey that begins with tapping into your own inner frequency of love to then find a partner with whom you are energetically aligned and from there can enter into sacred sexual spiritual partnership.
“P*ssy Prayers: Sacred and Sensual Rituals for Wild Women of Color”
By Black Girl Bliss
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Through stories and practical rituals, this book is designed to help readers of all gender identities shed sexual trauma and miseducation to fully understand the power and importance of pleasure and its connection to manifestation.
“The Sex Lives of African Women”
By Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah
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Author Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah combines decades of conversations about sex with African women across the world in this book of short stories meant to aid women on their own journey to sexual freedom.
“Black Love Letters”
By Cole Brown and Natalie Johnson
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This collection features writings and original illustrations from celebrated Black authors, creators, and entertainers on the power and beauty of Black love which can be a necessary reminder for anyone finding themselves jaded along the journey to relationship.
“FIND LOVE: How To Navigate Modern Love And Discover The Right Partner For You”
By Paul C. Brunson
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In “FIND LOVE,” set for release on Feb. 1, relationship expert Paul C. Brunson offers advice and practical tools to identify and secure true romantic connections.
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